Thank you, Lita. We have POA but it appears to leave little impression. Peter was amazing in advocating for Mom and breaking through the defensive, blind parroting we were hearing from the surrounding staff. And Lita, I am very sorry you went through this with your parents.
Thank you, Lita. We have POA but it appears to leave little impression. Peter was amazing in advocating for Mom and breaking through the defensive, blind parroting we were hearing from the surrounding staff. And Lita, I am very sorry you went through this with your parents.
Ginger: my mum was in the ER for 6 hours not too long ago.
Once she was in Triage for a couple of hours, she was directed onto a gurney behind Curtain #5, after which they completely forgot about her.
I finally went to the bathroom for 2 minutes about 5 hours into this saga. In the interim, someone came into #5 and said something to mum which she didn't understand. (I'm her medical advocate and translator.)
So when that someone came back and apparently repeated thatshe can "go ahead and get dressed and sit in the waiting room" I replied that MY MOTHER HASN'T BEEN SEEN BY A DOCTOR YET!!
"Oh..."
So, I then visibly stood at the entrance of Curtain #5 until an ER doctor finally made an appearance.
Mum is 92. In Canada...
Never NEVER allow an elderly loved one to enter the ER, or be admitted to hospital, WITHOUT an advocate.
Also: Never leave their side even if it means sleeping beside them in a chair.
End of rant.
PS: Thank goodness for your husband's firm advocacy Ginger and glad to hear your mum is on the mend!
Not only the elderly, but ALL sick people in the hospital need advocates. Pregnant women/infants definitely need them too, so they aren't given unwanted shots and are only given healthy food! WestonAPrice.org has a great diet for mothers (and dads) for pre-conception through after delivery: https://www.westonaprice.org/health-topics/diet-for-pregnant-and-nursing-mothers/ If you have the ability and finances to do this, have a midwife and have an in home delivery in a water bath!
I will always regret leaving my mother in the ER after our 11 hr saga and she was waiting for a bed upstairs. I was exhausted and hungry and went home promising to be back first thing in the morning but because of coofid mandates I wasnтАЩt allowed back until 1pm. When I called in the morning to check in they said her nurse wasnтАЩt there yet to speak to and to call backтАж? 1O minutes after that the ER dr calls me to tell me my mother went into cardiac arrest and they couldnтАЩt resuscitate her after two attempts. Biggest regret of my life and will have guilt forever even though my partner says тАЬyou couldnтАЩt have saved herтАЭ :(
now, I am very curious, why did you bring your mom to the ER. Obviously she was in distress. So what happened after 6 hours? Very odd. I am so sad and sorry your mom was treated so badly.
I was not with my father on this particular day, but dad's breathing was getting labored, and my sister took him to the fancy doctor office at his Ashby Ponds community. Very good doctor by the way, he told Joyce to bring him to the ER,
Sadly, with hind sight, I think the doc should have called for an ambulance.
Joyce drove my daddy to the ER and they waited 6 hours in the waiting room. Very bad very very bad
A PA (physician's assistant) is NOT a doctor and has no where near the training in depth, scope, and experience. They should only be assigned with the cogent agreement of the patient, if at all!!!
I strongly agree with this! In the last couple of years, my health has been dependent on a nurse practitioner. Very disappointed and dissatisfied with this practice. Late 60's and never given a choice....
So sorry, Brenda. People in their 60's are, in today's world, in the prime of their life. Yet most of us don't have the discretionary money to pay outright for desired or proper care at that time.
Thank you, Lita. We have POA but it appears to leave little impression. Peter was amazing in advocating for Mom and breaking through the defensive, blind parroting we were hearing from the surrounding staff. And Lita, I am very sorry you went through this with your parents.
~ Ginger
Ginger: my mum was in the ER for 6 hours not too long ago.
Once she was in Triage for a couple of hours, she was directed onto a gurney behind Curtain #5, after which they completely forgot about her.
I finally went to the bathroom for 2 minutes about 5 hours into this saga. In the interim, someone came into #5 and said something to mum which she didn't understand. (I'm her medical advocate and translator.)
So when that someone came back and apparently repeated thatshe can "go ahead and get dressed and sit in the waiting room" I replied that MY MOTHER HASN'T BEEN SEEN BY A DOCTOR YET!!
"Oh..."
So, I then visibly stood at the entrance of Curtain #5 until an ER doctor finally made an appearance.
Mum is 92. In Canada...
Never NEVER allow an elderly loved one to enter the ER, or be admitted to hospital, WITHOUT an advocate.
Also: Never leave their side even if it means sleeping beside them in a chair.
End of rant.
PS: Thank goodness for your husband's firm advocacy Ginger and glad to hear your mum is on the mend!
Not only the elderly, but ALL sick people in the hospital need advocates. Pregnant women/infants definitely need them too, so they aren't given unwanted shots and are only given healthy food! WestonAPrice.org has a great diet for mothers (and dads) for pre-conception through after delivery: https://www.westonaprice.org/health-topics/diet-for-pregnant-and-nursing-mothers/ If you have the ability and finances to do this, have a midwife and have an in home delivery in a water bath!
I will always regret leaving my mother in the ER after our 11 hr saga and she was waiting for a bed upstairs. I was exhausted and hungry and went home promising to be back first thing in the morning but because of coofid mandates I wasnтАЩt allowed back until 1pm. When I called in the morning to check in they said her nurse wasnтАЩt there yet to speak to and to call backтАж? 1O minutes after that the ER dr calls me to tell me my mother went into cardiac arrest and they couldnтАЩt resuscitate her after two attempts. Biggest regret of my life and will have guilt forever even though my partner says тАЬyou couldnтАЩt have saved herтАЭ :(
health care elderly in US and Canada is terrible, for the elderly does not exist...but in general, you are treated like meat
now, I am very curious, why did you bring your mom to the ER. Obviously she was in distress. So what happened after 6 hours? Very odd. I am so sad and sorry your mom was treated so badly.
I was not with my father on this particular day, but dad's breathing was getting labored, and my sister took him to the fancy doctor office at his Ashby Ponds community. Very good doctor by the way, he told Joyce to bring him to the ER,
Sadly, with hind sight, I think the doc should have called for an ambulance.
Joyce drove my daddy to the ER and they waited 6 hours in the waiting room. Very bad very very bad
100%
we went to walk in clinic in NY recently...after chatting with the doctor, usually you get a PA, he told us he sells used cars on the side.
Thank you so much for speaking up and upholding truth and life!I wish I can meet both of you someday. You are both so very precious!
A PA (physician's assistant) is NOT a doctor and has no where near the training in depth, scope, and experience. They should only be assigned with the cogent agreement of the patient, if at all!!!
I strongly agree with this! In the last couple of years, my health has been dependent on a nurse practitioner. Very disappointed and dissatisfied with this practice. Late 60's and never given a choice....
So sorry, Brenda. People in their 60's are, in today's world, in the prime of their life. Yet most of us don't have the discretionary money to pay outright for desired or proper care at that time.